3 Tips to keep your spouse focused at home, on the marriage

There is never a good reason or excuse for having an affair and destroying your marriage vows. Period.
A cheater is fully responsible for their actions, and the justifications they come up with to make themselves feel better. Regardless of whether or not your spouse contemplates and goes through with an affair, your marriage may still have very legitimate problems that need to be addressed.
In this post, I’ll help you examine your relationship and identify ways to remove the allure of looking outside of the marriage in order to avoid the work of solving the problems within. These tips are applicable whether you are working to save your marriage before an affair happens—or you are in a position of trying to save your marriage post-affair.
Cheaters Have No Good Reason to Cheat
There may not be a good excuse for cheating, but that doesn’t mean cheaters haven’t tried to come up with one. The same old tired themes keep appearing:
“I didn’t feel loved anymore…”
“We never did anything fun together as a couple…”
“I never see him—he/she is always working…”
“He/she didn’t understand me or my needs…”
When cheating spouses say these things, it’s probably all the victim can do not to pull their own hair out. Your spouse was willing to throw away everything you had—over something that could have been worked on in the marriage

Is my spouse still cheating Part 2

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You already know the answer to this question in your gut: There's no way to be certain that your spouse won't cheat again. Human beings don't come with guarantees.

Your spouse could cheat on you again. It's possible. It's happened before, and that makes it more likely that it could happen again.

In my research over the years, I've seen it go both ways. I've seen people recover from affairs and build marriages that are happier than they've ever been, and I've seen people suffer through serial affairs.

Let me tell you, there's simply no way to be