Saturday, June 19, 2010

Coping With Heartbreak - 3 Ways to Fix Your Heartbreak!

Coping with heartbreak is something that just about everyone has to do at some point within their lives. Whether that be through the loss of someone special or like in most cases a relationship break up. Losing a partner through break up is a cruel thing and something that can tear your heart in to completely. So, what can you do to help when coping with heartbreak from a relationship break up?

1. Be Strong

This is obviously a well used tip and one that most of your closest friends and family have probably already said to you. But it is easier said than done! The only things you want to do right now is crawl into a ball and disappear. This is normal and a reaction the body takes when put through horrible emotions.
But you need to be strong and brave, this will help you become a better person and allow you to get on with life without your ex partner.

2. Socialize

Socializing is also something that is probably sat at the very back of your mind right now. You have just broken up with someone and trying to cope with your heart breaking, the last thing you want to do is go out and be happy!

But unfortunately you need to do this! Moping around the house and becoming a hobbit will only make things feel ten times worse. Let's face it, with nothing to do and nobody to talk to, the only things that are going to be running through your mind are the good and bad times with your ex partner.

This isn't going to help you with coping with heartbreak. So when you are invited out with friends, take every opportunity with both hands and give you brain a break from the break up

3. Talk

Ok, something else you may not want to do right away but talking and letting everything out to someone else, a close friend or family member will help you to cope with heartbreak. You are effectively letting out the strain on your broken heart and by doing this, you will feel much better almost immediately.

There is nothing quite like talking to a friend or relative and really letting things out, you are then not just dealing with this issue by yourself, you are getting to the support you need!

Coping with heartbreak from a relationship break up is not a nice thing and the only real way to fix your heart is by following tips like the above and either allowing TIME TO HEAL or BY REKINDLING THE LOVE WITH YOUR EX!

The 3 tips above will do something towards either time or reconciliation; you just need to decide which route you want to take to completely fix your heartbreak!

If this article has bless you, kindly leave a comment below.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Make Long Distance Relationship Work


By Francis K Githinji
More and more people are finding themselves in long distance relationship. Some of them find themselves in one because their partner has to go and study somewhere or have to go and work in some other country or town. For whatever reason, people who are in long distant relationship are always anxious and keep wondering wether their relationship will work or not. The good news is that, just like any other relationship, long distance relationship has got its own huddles that can be passed safely if you follow this simple advice. Every one faces their own kind of problems in a relationship and no matter how close you are with the person in matters of distance your relationship could still end. Rejoice to the fact that distance has been said to make the heart fonder.

Now that your partner is off to some other place, this is the time to get closer. Call each other more often than you usually did when they were around. Try to communicate as much as possible with your partner and update them with what is going on in your life. This will make them feel a part of it and they will have no reason to doubt you. Avoid calling for a millisecond thinking that you are saving money. In the end you could be ending your relationship. Designate time in which you will call your partner and talk for hours. You can not see them, but you can hear them. Be a keen listener, that way, you can almost tell whether your partner is okay or is having trouble wherever he or she is. That way, you will grow even closer and your long distance relationship will work.

If you have a computer with you at home, fix it with the Internet and the web cam. Late in the evening if you are in the same state, you can talk while seeing each other. It is very important to see someone once in a while. Though you might not be able to see them physically, you can see them through the web cam. Technology has made it easier for long distance relationship to work. Send each other gifts on important days. Just because they are far from you it doesn't mean you should forget to send each other gifts and letters. Be very creative with the letters. You can also send them a love poem just to tell them how much you miss them and love them.

Trust is a very important element in any relationship. The fact that your partner is far from you might make it hard for you to trust them. You might not know what they are doing, but that doesn't mean you have to bring it up all the time and accuse them of being unfaithful. This will only push your partner further away and the distance between you will not only be physical but emotional. If you have to visit your partner, inform them about it. Do not go to their place in the pretext of seeing them yet you had gone to check if they were cheating. Long distance relationship should be able to work if there exists mutual trust between the two of you.

What is your view about long distance relationship? leave a comment below.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Surviving a Long Distance Relationship - 5 Advices to Strengthen Your Relationship


Surviving a long distance relationship can be a challenge not well understood until you experience it yourself. It would require both parties to be committed to each other and willing to stay together emotionally.

Having a long distant relationship would definitely have some of its problems as any other relationship, and you would need to know how to avoid them or resolve them to prevent your relationship from falling apart. Some of these advices could also help strengthen the bond between you and your long distance partner and improve your relationship.

One of the most important things you two need to be in mutual agreement with each other. Being in a relationship but having a great distance between the two of you means neither of you have much control over the other. One of you may feel that it is important to keep intimacies between each other only while the other may feel that continuing to go out with others would do no harm. If either cannot agree to have a relationship like this, things could fall apart easily.

Often, though, people would not consider such a monogamous relationship while the two of them are apart. With only the voice on a long-distance call or the words over the Internet, there is little motivation to stick to one person for the rest of your left while there are others who are easily available, and in the flesh as well. They usually would not stick together unless they do feel a strong bond between them.

You would also need to know that with a great distance between the two of you, physical contact with each other would be rare so you two would need to communicate properly and clearly. Talking to each other to understand and learn about each other becomes vital in your attempt to improve your relationship.

If there was a relationship that has lasted and is very strong, it could be formed from a long distance. Using only communication skills that proved to be great and bonded the two people together even after so long, the addition of physical contact with each other adds on to the bond when they finally meet in person and live together. Furthermore, you would find yourself loving the soul who is your lover and not the body that gives a mere visual representation of your lover.

For people who may have problems trusting others, being in a long distance relationship may not be suitable. For one, you can contact your loved one only when your loved one makes him or her contactable, otherwise, you would have practically no other means of getting into contact, except by travelling the distance personally. Thus, a great amount of trust is required in such a relationship.

This trust is also important because if both of you are endlessly suspecting each other of seeing someone when not contactable, it would put a great strain on your relationship. Continuing such a relationship could bring more harm than joy to your lives.

At the same time, both you and your loved one need to resist temptations. With so many other people living in the same area you do, it could be easily to find yourself lusting after the next-door neighbour who happened to display a sexy side for just that one moment. It is much easier to be attracted to a person's physical beauty than by a trail of words or a disconnected voice coming from a small box.

Being in a long distant relationship can prove to be very difficult or almost impossible for some people, but if you two truly love each other and can hold a strong bond, when you two come together, your relationship could be much more beautiful than anyone would expect.